#14 Healing the Mother Wound

#14 Healing the Mother Wound

Healing the Mother Wound & My journey from being Motherless to feeling deeply and completely loved by the Great Mother.

*TRIGGER WARNING* includes my story of parental addiction, abuse and domestic violence.

I’m Christel Arcucci. You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast. The lightning path for world-changing women to receive millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine aligned with the greater good.

If you are interested in working with me, please visit www.EmbodyYourLegacy.com to learn about upcoming programs and coaching opportunities.

Let’s begin with my intention. I’m sharing my journey of being motherless to illuminate why the foundation of my soul-work personally and professionally is to repair and integrate the wounded masculine and wounded feminine within in order to embody the divine union of masculine and feminine essence as your magic power in life, love and business.

I will read a self-guided soul retrieval that I wrote when I was 19 then go into a sensual hypnosis journey to help you heal the self abandonment, self sabotage, self attack, people-pleasing, over-giving tendencies of the Martyr mother archetype that can result from growing up in the dominant and dysfunctional culture and or growing up in a dysfunctional household with mental health issue such as addiction, neglect or abuse.

At the time of this recording in May 2022, I am 49.

The short story of my childhood is, both of my parents where alcoholics and my father got sober when I was 12. My mother’s alcoholism in her second marriage started as a dysfunctional relationship that quickly escalated into being abusive.
I asked for her help in managing the situation with my step-dad and she denied there was a problem.

I’ve been estranged from my mother since I was 14, after I moved out of her house and moved in with my father, who gave me a safe place to start a supported healing process.

My mother she and her family told me I was no longer her daughter. I was not their family.

This was an incredibly challenging time as I was becoming a young woman to have my mother tell me I was no longer her daughter.

I want you to know is that your story my story can be shared In so many ways and while there are many aspects of this writing that I would change now because now I tell a different story not because the facts of the event changed but because I feel so differently about losing my mother.

For many years, I felt devastated. I felt abandoned and betrayed that she chose him instead of me.

In my mid-30s, as I was beginning my public speaking career, I realized I had left. She choose to tell disown me as daughter, but I choose me by leaving a dysfunctional and abusive environment with parents that were mentally ill. My mother and stepfather were drinking too much The situation went from bad to worse after I left and she ended up getting beaten up many times, with broken ribs and hospital visits and at one point she was sleeping with a gun under her pillow on the couch in order to protect herself from her husband.

When I would tell people I was estranged from my mother but they would tell me I needed to repair and restore the relationship or I would regret it. For many years, I let people project their issues onto me and judge my choices. I let them shame me, make me feel like a terrible daughter, and wrong for a choice that I knew was best for me.

Clear boundaries with dysfunctional and mentally ill people as a way of choosing my health in order to do the inner healing needed to create a secure attachment with myself and others in my life.

Healing the Mother Wound & Father Wound supports each person to dance with masculine and feminine essence you are created from.

They often correlate feminine and masculine energies only with gender. This exploration has nothing to do with how you express the dynamic dance of masculine and feminine in your body and life.

My intention is to inspire you to reclaim your power and create and maintain clear boundaries with yourself and others. End the cycles of self neglect, self abandonment, self sabotage, self attack, stop people-pleasing, and over-giving by exploring re-parenting from the Divine Mother and Divine Father with inner archetype healing.

It’s time to create a secure, healthy, loving relationship with yourself and others.
Now for the soul retrieval writing and into the sensual hypnosis recode.

“Look at the child with a dream in her eyes, holding it deep inside her.”
Sarah McLachlan

Let us begin,
by cleansing the inner child,
tending to her broken heart.
Healing her broken spirit.
It’s time for a Rebirth
to become a child of the Earth.

I must not pretend for I know you see the moon before your eyes ah yes, the pain of childhood and the trauma of life.

The beginning, the opening, the slow of death in developing into who you really are.

I’m standing beside her with the childhood dress on. She’s holding my hand. She’s hard and as cold as stone, with only the warmth of blood to warm her skin.

The tears roll down my face. She looks straightforward. She seems not to hear nor feel the sobbing pounding in my heart.

She doesn’t notice the emotion or anything I feel.
Can’t she see, hear, or feel?
I’m calling out to her in desperate fear, “mother?”
Screaming for her help.
“Mother?!” but she doesn’t hear.
I tug on her hand and look up to her in despair, “mother?”
She does not dare to move. It’s like she’s frozen.
I wonder if there’s anyone alive in there.

I look around to see you so many of them not looking, not seeing, not feeling.
I’m not sure which…

What is really going on here?

I don’t understand this place called Earth. This life experiment of being human.
I feel. I see.

I know what’s behind your eyes, no matter how hard you may try not to let me.

I see you. I feel you.
I cannot pretend.
I will not pretend.

“Hey you! Can you hear me in there?” I call out in a fury. I cause a great commotion, waving my free arm, screaming and crying, but so many of them don’t even notice me.
There are a few who really see.
They see what’s behind my eyes, but as soon as they do, they look away and pretend they never saw me…
Oh the pain, who are these people and why don’t they listen or help or heal?

They are completely foreign to me. In my fury, I realize I am a child and the entire world believes this woman should take care of me. I cannot escape……yet! And I cannot give myself everything I need.

As the years pass, I stand beside her, holding her hand.
I am as hard as and cold as stone.
My face shows no emotion.
My eyes show nothing but distance.
Only my heart will burn inside of me, waiting for the day I will be free.
Slowly, her grip will loosen.
I lie in bed at night in the shadows with only my teddy bear to soothe my heart. And I silently cry myself to sleep with James pulled close to me, “One day James, we will be free somewhere out there where none of them can find us.”

The years passed on and now I stand upon the Mountain, the winds whip around me, the moon shines down upon me and my hands are FREE!

I remember that child with the dream in her eyes and I raise my hands to the Heavens and my heart weeps, the tears stream down my face and I whisper, “Mother….”
“Yes, dear child. What do you need?” I hear her reply.

My soul is restored.
I fall to my knees and I hold my hands over my heart and I feel the first sputtered breaths of life.
The hands of the earth hold me, caress me, feel me, love me and heal my body with her healing love.
I feel the power and light rise and the tears of joy release.
Now I shall walk again and fly beyond the limits of mind.
The sun warms my back, so I turn to feel the warmth of the sun on my face.
I shift my body and feel what it holds and become ready to dance through this life.
Now that I realize I am home.
Mother Earth has been there loving me all along.
She is always holding me, guiding me, healing me, feeling me, feeding me, loving me and mothering me.
Thank you Mother.
Jai Ma.

(Sensual Hypnosis not included in transcription)

Thank you for being here. It’s a pleasure to co-create and embody wealthy with you.

You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast. The lightning path for world-changing women to receive millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in service to love.

You can access the all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at www.embodywealthypodcast.com/14

If you are interested to explore embody wealthy mentorship options, please visit www.embodyyourlegacy.com to fill out an application.
I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.

For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit www.embodywealthypodcast.com  I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

I am sending you so much love!

#13 Make Millions Recode to Fuel your Dreams

#13 Make Millions Recode to Fuel your Dreams

I remember you, we’ve met before in another time and place and we’re meeting here and now for a make millions recode in order to access your desire and amplify your creative soul fire, here and now.

I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in aligned with the greater good.

If you are interested to explore working with me please visit www.EmbodyYourLegacy.com to learn about upcoming programs and mentorship opportunities.

Today’s session is a make millions Akashic recode. It is incredibly rare in our world that a woman owned business makes $1 million a year and I am here to change that.

This session is a combination of erotic vocal alchemy, hypnosis and an Akashic recode integrating the power of word, breath and sound.

I invite you to make yourself luxuriously comfortable and as supported as possible.

Let your breath move without any effort as if you are being breathed.

Breath moving in.
Breath moving out.
Inhale and exhale.
No effort.
No struggle.
No time.

Simply being in this moment, following the sound of my voice guiding you deeper and deeper into your body, into your breath, into your soul desire.

Your mind may jump up and down and try to make you run in circles if that happens, just notice the wild monkey mind playing its games. Notice its energy it’s movement and simply observe and continue to feel your body being breathed.

Inhale and Exhale.
Receiving and releasing.
Inhale and exhale.
Receiving and centering.
Here and now.

Yes. Now, that you’re more present in your experience.
Now that you are more familiar with my voice.
Now that you are trusting your higher guidance and wisdom to support the unfolding of your impossible dreams.

They’re not so impossible, in fact they were given to you those wild dreams of what seems impossible.

Yes yes yes, you are feeling and knowing that more is possible now than ever.

One simple breath at the time you can fuel those streams bring them into being.

Watering the seeds of your desire one breath and a time.

Receiving and releasing.
Non-linear and spiral your circle swerve and circulate your vital energy, your will, your life force fueling your dreams, fueling your creative projects.

Fueling your vision of the world and what you would like it to be.

You are given these visions for a reason. You are given these desires to play with.
Playing with your desire.
Playing with the energy whether it feels like paint on your fingertips or oil you are smoothing onto your skin or sandpaper smoothing down a wood object.

Creative desire. Soul power fueled by your willingness to be in flow with the future you want to create through now.

Here and now.

This body, this breath, this moment, this opportunity.

Any resistance to playing in the game money, wealth, luxury, affluence moving out with the exhale like tiny specs of sand integrating into the great infinite ocean of consciousness.

Given back to source.
Believing here and now in the possibility of creating your desire, of allowing life force energy to fuel your desire, allowing money and resources to come into your life, your bank accounts, your business, fueling your creative desire.

Fueling your will to create in-service to the greater good and in service to love and truth.

Those wild visions?

Yes yes yes, your wild divisions taking aligned actions each day to create new opportunities, new collaborations, new connections.

Your life is your greatest masterpiece, your passion is yours to express and explore.

Your power, your pleasure are becoming more aligned, more awaken and in-service to human embodied awakening.

Divinity and humanity dancing together.
Light and dark.
Sun and moon.
Winter, spring, summer and autumn.
Cycling, circling, creating awakening, awakening, awakening.

Here and now.

The channel of receiving is open.
The channel of offering is open.

In your body receiving, from your body offering.

From a place of fullness and abundance you are offering.

Open to receiving what turns you on.
Open to receiving what lights you up.

Learning to receive.

Receive challenges life offers.
Noticing the opportunity to play with the challenges life offers. Knowing that your life, your experience is your medicine, your soul desire to explore being human in this life.

You are opening, perhaps wildly, perhaps slowly, whatever pace you need.

You are opening to receive-receive-receive-millions-millions-millions just as easily as you’re breathing in and breathing out.

Receiving and offering.
Receiving and releasing.
Rising and falling.
Day and night.

So easy and sometimes even in the struggle you find yourself laughing knowing it’s another opportunity to play in this while the mess called human life.

oh yes oh yes oh yes sometimes it is so fun to be the hot mess.

You find yourself easily much more easily excepting the wide variety of characters you play even those forbidden aspects and parts of yourself that you wish didn’t exist in the past.

Now you know how to play the game: yes and.
Yes and.
Yes and what will you create?
Yes and what is this invitation?
Yes and what is this madness?

This earth school experience?

It’s so much easier to experience delight in it now, isn’t it?

To make so much money that you can create all of your wildest fantasies, you also know that money is not the only answer.

Millions of opportunities.
Millions of resources.
A global network of world-changing humans working together.
A global network of world-changing humans collaborating, connecting, co-creating together.

Oh yes, so good so delicious and sometimes dangerous to that old status quo.

Sometimes it’s so fun to wildly imagine that even more is possible.

Receiving and offering.
Make millions.
Access your desire.
Create a life that is even more than you could’ve ever Imagined. Creative life force activation, soul contacts, remembering, soul family reunion here and now connecting through time and space.

Opening, receiving, opening, offering.
Inhale and Exhale.
Opening and closing.
Clear boundaries are essential.

Accepting, receiving, acknowledging, appreciating.

It’s not always as it appears, yet demand in your own soul clarity to know the truth, to align with love and remember that love is the power to create and destroy.
Create and destroy.
Create, live and die is all part of the cycle.

Receiving and offering.
Receiving and releasing.
Destruction is an essential part of the cycle and the old way of destroying it’s no longer happening.

Fueling the creative fire aligned with love.
Fueling the creative fire in service to the greater good.

Inhale receiving, exhale releasing.

The mind knows no bounds.
The monkey mind, chasing your tail, how funny.

Receiving your millions.
Creating your millions.
Making millions.
So pleasurable, so effortless, so enjoyable such a great adventure, here and now.

And returning returning returning feeling your body sensing your breath, knowing your soul awakening unfolds even after our time together here.
I remember you.
I know you.
I believe in you.
Thank you for being here.

Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to co-create and embody wealthy with you.

You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in service to love.

You can access the all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at embodywealthypodcast.com/13

If you are interested to explore embody wealthy mentorship options please visit www.embodyyourlegacy.com to fill out an application.

I believe in you and the magic power of your soul.

For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit embodywealthypodcast.com I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

I am sending you so much love!

#12 Make Millions Experiment & Your Desire

#12 Make Millions Experiment & Your Desire

 Money is a loaded subject, oh yes! This episode is a public declaration of my purpose to embody wealthy as I guide and support world-changing women to make millions in service to love.

I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in aligned with to the greater good.

If you are interested in exploring working with me, please visit www.EmbodyYourLegacy.com to learn about upcoming programs and coaching opportunities.

Welcome to today’s deep dive into pain and pleasure and how to use them to create the life you imagine. 

You may have noticed the name of the podcast has changed from the sole purpose podcast to the embody wealthy podcast. 

What does embody wealthy mean? 

Embody wealthy focuses on awakening in and through your body, not by trying to transcend your body or the struggle and challenges of human experience. 

Being human includes pain and pleasure, and an extreme spectrum of what it’s like to be human in this time in history. The challenges of being human and your pain body are the focus of shadow body integration. While your pleasure. Is the focus of pleasure body activation. 

This podcast focuses on how you can use everything, yes everything, every experience, every ecstasy, every tragedy and everything in between as fuel for your creative fire to embody your version of wealthy. 

First, that means you have to discover what embody wealthy looks and feels like for you and clear away the beliefs the trauma, the cultural indoctrination that keeps you from discover what you want, asking for what you want, and receiving what you want.

Discover. Ask. Receive.

Let me say that again since, especially for women, this golden trifecta will unlock the wealthy, health and great love you desire to create.

Discover what you want.

Ask for what you want.

Receive what you want.

What is shadow body integration and pleasure body activation?

Shadow body integration is learning to be with the intensity of experience that lives inside your body, mind, heart and soul. To deeply receive your experience while minimizing resistance. 

Feeling is healing even if you don’t like it. 

The world is really intense right now and the dominant cultural conditioning gives you a very narrow spectrum of what you “should” feel comfortable experiencing. 

Shadow body integration is the practice of being where you are, sitting in the soup of your human-ness and skillfully navigate without trying to get rid of the mess or pretend it isn’t happening. 

Shadow body integration offers tools to look your shadow and the collective shadow in the eyes and not turn away but instead to use the intensity of shadow, pain, challenges and problems in your life and in the world as fuel for your creative soul fire. 

On the opposite side of the spectrum, women often have limited a very capacity to experience pleasure like it’s this forbidden taboo. Oh, that’s right, it is in many traditions taboo for a woman to experience pleasure, especially in her body, her sensuality and sexuality. 

For a woman, it’s a sacred act of rebellion to know what you desire, ask for what you desire, and receive what you desire.

Not from the boss-bade wounded masculine burnout mode of overdrive and overwhelm, but from a deep connected space of knowing and integrating your feminine essence aligned with your inner masculine presence and protection.

Practice increasing your capacity to know what turns you on, ask for what lights you up and then delight in receiving your desire. 

Shadow body integration and pleasure body activation are two wings of the bird dependent upon each other to soar through embodying your version of great love, vibrant health, and abundant wealth in order to create the life you imagine in service to love. 

A key element to reset is that you do not have to sacrifice, compromise or play small or believe the dominant program and cultural conditioning that you are not good enough, not worthy and don’t deserve tot thrive and enjoy your life. 

You deserve to create the wealth, health and love you imagine and even more than you can imagine.

Embody wealthy is not a Pollyanna version of you can have it all with no Issues in life.

The focus is being able to navigate the messiness of being human, riding the energies of fucking chaos of what’s happening in the world now and learning to use it all to fuel your creative fire to light you up. 

Stop resisting challenges.

Skillfully surf the waves, ride the chaos, weather the storm. 

You are the waves, chaos, and storm.

Be the woman that is a living embodiment of your pleasurable purpose. 

How can you Embody Wealthy today? No matter what the reasons are that your mind says you cannot, you’re not ready. You don’t deserve it. It’s dangerous. You don’t make enough money. You are not skinny enough, curvy enough, smart enough, young enough, old enough. Grew up in the wrong side of town, didn’t go to the right school or get the right job.

Blah Blah Blah.

Take gentle breath, place your hand on your heart and the other on your belly and say:

I believe in you. I love you. I know what you’ve been through and I know what you’re capable of. In this moment, I take back my pleasure power and live in alignment with my values.  

I take daily actions aligned in service to love.

What does making millions have to do with it?

Why does this have to be about money?

 I have been a spiritual practitioner since my near death experience (NDE) at 6 months old and took part in many spiritual communities for over 35 years. 

The dominant paradigm of spirituality and money being incompatible and not allowed to be discussed in the same sentence is insane! 

I am here to transform the myth that money is not spiritual because I believe that when you align your spiritual values with your soul purpose, speak your truth with love power, that money can transform what’s fucked up about humanity. 

You may wonder why I am making this public declaration and how close I am to making $1 million in a year.

 I have never made $1 million in one year and never cared much bout becoming a millionaire. 

I have sold millions in products and services in my career.

I’ve helped women make millions and become millionaires and I’ve helped businesses make Millions.

Yet I was telling myself a story that my business wasn’t good enough because mentors I have worked with have been in business less than half the time I have or even less than 10 year and THEY are making $10M per year or even $6M in 2 months. So why would any own hire me instead of them?

BOOM

I saw the core issue that many of my clients struggle with: not being good enough + being stuck in the persecution story that I will be killed/burned at the stake or cast out for speaking my truth of wanting to create a global network of soul-centered women millionaires.

I have never made $1 million in one year, so why am I declaring this so publicly? 

Making millions in one year is an outrageous intention and making it public and not being afraid of failing.

My intention for sharing this is to show being a woman that is unapologetically discovering my desire, claiming my desire and reaching my desire of a million dollar per year business.

I am also not attached to this happening in 2022, although I am taking daily aligned action to create the systems and structure aligned with my soul in order for this to happen.

No matter what happens, I am creating the impact I desire and getting out of my own way and transforming the soul blocks that are slowing me down from my mission to help 100,000 women make millions in service to love.

If I do if I do not reach $1 million in a year, I’m still gonna fucking celebrate! 

I’m going to celebrate that I claim my desire and shared the journey to inspire you.

I will make $1 million in one year. I’m taking action in alignment with my desire and I am open to receive $1M per year. 

I can feel the path and momentum that my desire is creating, and I’m inviting you to join me with your own outrageous desire. 

The reality of me making $1 million per year in my business means helping a lot of other women make millions, which is a win-win for the greater good. 

It’s impossible for me to fail since the intention of doing business in service to love will reward me with more than I can even imagine.

I know, without a doubt, my business will generate millions per year.

I feel it. I know it. And so it is.

What if I fail in my make millions experiment?

What if you could change your mind about rejection and failure being a good thing in your life?

Here’s your invitation to build resilience through a rejection and failure practice. 

What the what? did I say rejection and failure practice? 

Yes, I did. 

What that means is that you practice extending yourself beyond your comfort zone daily and actively keep asking until you find for the edge where people will say no. 

This isn’t about badgering people until they say no, it’s about taking risks and asking bigger, more life-changing questions and removing your fear of rejection and failure.

I know this is a stretch because most of you have decided that rejection and failure are a bad thing to be avoided at all costs. 

I want you to see feel and know how rejection and failure are essential to your success.

When you were a kid, you were more willing to fail when we learned something new: walking, talking, eating, writing, and riding a bike.

When you’re learning to walk, you fall down hundreds of times before you can walk across the room and the same thing was true with running or riding a bike. You will fail and to practice playfully expanding your abilities until you mastered a new skill.

Think about eating on your own… you can food all over the place and felt like a massive success when you got a single bit in your mouth.

Let’s restore that same sense of innocence and play to your life and business now.

In childhood, you consistently played at the edge of your comfort zone.

But somewhere along the way you learned that rejection and failure should be avoided.

How can you change your mind and decide that rejection and failure are practices to work on every day in order to expand your comfort zone and expand your capacity?

When you reach the end of your comfort zone and keep going, you discover the rejection and failure are actually a positive since they help you to become the best version of yourself. They guide you to achieve your dreams and goals and create success in your life on your terms. 

I invite you to make rejection and failure a daily practice.  

Building your failure and rejection muscles is like building any muscles. You work on them in small doses, a few reps at a time and even once they are strong, you keep training them to maintain your strength.

Posting on social media is one level of challenge. Yet a bigger, harder challenge comes when you reached out to someone, you know, in real life and they don’t even reply how much your mind will make up stories about what that means. I’m broken. I’m unlovable. I’m not important. And nobody cares about me.

Boo hoo. Poor me. 

Ouch! 

Your mind will make up stories about what that means: “I am broken, I am unlovable, I am not important, and nobody cares about me. Boo how, poor me.”

The rejection and failure practice is focused on extending out from the heart and not being attached to the outcome or response, which is not easy, yet the more you practice the easier it becomes. 

When you are clear about the kinds of connections you want to create and why, it becomes easier it is to let go of attachment to the outcome. 

When you extend beyond your comfort zone knowing that you are building the rejection and failure muscles, which will serve and support your life and purpose.

When you can change your mind about rejection and failure, you will create success with ease and grace. 

Become willing to fail.

Change your story about rejection and failure.

Make being rejected a daily practice.

Make it playful.

Refuse to let the results take you down.

You can change your mind and change your life by reaching the edge of your capacity and comfort zone to keep going. 

Just like building any muscle when you regularly do the rejection and failure practice and refuse to collapse or fall into the downward spiral, you will confidently expand your capacity and confidence and become unstoppable.

Build your capacity and strength in order to create success.

Once you’re done with this practice for a period of time, you will be more confident and have greater courage in taking bigger risks, reaching for bigger goals and therefore unfazed by rejection and failure.

Fear of rejection and failure will no longer stop you or keep you playing small in your life

Thank you for being here. It’s a pleasure to co-create and embody wealthy with you. 

You’re listening to the Embody Wealthy Podcast, the lightning path for world-changing women to make millions, embody wealthy, and create the life you imagine in service to love.

You can access the all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at embodywealthypodcast.com/12

If you are interested to explore embody wealthy mentorship options, please visit www.embodyyourlegacy.com to fill out an application.

I believe in you and the magic power of your soul. 

For more revolutionary teachings and tools please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit embodywealthypodcast.com  I look forward to connecting with you on the next episode.

I am sending you so much love!

#11 Create the Future

How can you actively take part in creating the future you desire?

This episode highlights the practice of future casting, which is an active collaboration with spoken word, breath, sound, and energy healing.

I’m Christel Arcucci. You’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.

How is this different from the law of attraction teachings? (LOA) While I agree that our energy and attention create momentum.

If you’re stuck in the looping patterns of your mind, it’s difficult to move into a different energy frequency.

With future casting, you are actively participating and feeling your body and breathing your breath and speaking your dreams out loud. It becomes infinitely easier to get out of the habitual tracks that have set in your mind and in your emotional body and in your physical body.

Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you. 

You’re listening to the soul purpose podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.

You can access the Free Soul Success Journal & meditation and all episodes of the podcast and all the goodies mentioned in this episode at soulpurposepodcast.com/11

If you are interested in exploring soul purpose mentorship options with me visit soulpurposepath.com to fill out an application.

I believe in you and the magic power of your soul. 

For more revolutionary teachings and tools, please follow on your favorite podcast app or visit soulpurposepodcast.com. I look forward to connecting with you in the next episode.

I am sending you so much love!

#10 Intuition or Anxiety – How to Restore your Intuitive Body Wisdom

The Practice of Embodied Soul Purpose is the ability to distinguish between intuition guiding your choices or anxiety running your life. 

I’m Christel Arcucci, you’re listening to the Soul Purpose Podcast, the lightning path of embodied spiritual awakening with shadow and light integration. Quit people pleasing, create healthy boundaries, reclaim power, and live your soul purpose legacy.

I based this podcast upon the assumption that every adult has experienced trauma int their life. Trauma can include events that are obviously difficult, like a car accident, illness or injury, a pet dying, having surgery, giving birth, death of a loved one, divorce, buying a house, losing a job, being bullied or getting robbed. The struggles of your own or a loved ones addiction, or a history of abuse or abandonment. 

Trauma also includes events that FELT traumatic and may have been dismissed as “no big deal.” Like being left with a baby sitter, not getting a part in the 1st grade play, or being told you can’t sing. On the surface these events can be easily overlooked yet they may leave traumatic imprints. 

The level of trauma in the body, mind, and heart all depends on how you learn to regulate your nervous system during and after a traumatic event.

I believe everyone has trauma to unwind and integrate. 

A key component of embodied trauma integration practice is learning to distinguish between your intuitive body wisdom guiding your choices and your  pain body wounding running your life. 

Keep in mind your pain body wounding is not bad or wrong, you are not broken for struggling with anxiety or depression, the hardest life lessons are often the greatest teachers. The key teaching of this podcast is to recognize when the pain body is hijacking your brain is trying to convince you that it is in charge and the CEO of your life.

Let’s start to distinguish choices from your intuitive body that are low importance and how your wounding, survival strategy or the mind’s override mechanism will try to derail and control you.

The reason this happens is because your mind is literally designed to keep you in safety, which means keep you in what is familiar, even if it’s unhealthy.

As Carl Jung said, “until you make your unconscious, conscious it will rule your life and you will call it fate.” 

Your task,  should you choose to accept the challenge is to face your shadows and learn the inner landscape of programming vs transformational change.`

First practice is getting dressed in the morning or planning your outfits at night. Take a moment and a deep soul body breath to ground and connect your mind, body, and heart. Feel your feet on the floor, take a deep breath, gently move your body and bounce to bring your awareness from mind down into your heart, down into your hips.

Listen to episode 5 for more information the soul body breath practice.

Stand in front of your closet and ask, “what is the best color or outfit to wear tomorrow in order to step into my greatest soul-centered power?” Or change the request to speak directly to your desired experience or outcome. “In order to generate more money.”   “In order to enjoy delightful collaboration with my clients or partners” name the specific outcome or experience you want to have that day. 

Keep breathing and notice what your mind says and notice what your body guides you to. 

Often you will have an exciting first inspiration yet your mind may try to logic you out of taking action since your brain is wired to keep you safe by keeping your life and choices familiar even if it’s unhealthy and or you are unhappy. 

When your mind is disconnected from your heart and intuitive body wisdom your wounded parts will try to lead, this is not meant to demonize your mind. When your mind is disconnected from the heart and body wisdom, it can tell you all manner of stories that are not true, supportive or rooted in intuitive  body wisdom or intuition. So at first when you start this practice the mind is going to try and take control, “listen to me, I’m the boss.” 

Making healing choices from a deeply rooted connection takes time and practice. Be an observer when you’re standing in front of your closet and ask who is leading? 

Love or fear? 

Intuition or anxiety?

Intuitive body wisdom or pain body wounding?

Getting dressed in the morning there is no great risk, nothing is at stake if you follow general protocol yet still allow yourself to play. 

After you ask the question and then listen, listen, listen.

Open your mind to how you receive the guidance, some people will hear words, some will want to scan your clothes with your eyes or hands until you feel it, others will have a deep knowing.

Here’s an example:

My mind says: wear the teal colored dress. 

My intuitive body says: wear the the coral skirt, and purple top.

Take a breath. Pause. Listen to voices and explore the feeling signature of each voice and its essence in the moment. 

Is it love or fear?

Is it intuition or anxiety?

When you start this practice you may experience discomfort in listening to your intuitive animal body wisdom. 

As I selected this random example just imaging standing in front of my closet my mind said, “Wait, those are really bold colors together, do they even go together? What’s going on?” Even this is a made up example my mind is overriding the intuitive guidance yet I have done enough practice to know the difference between wounding and wisdom.

As I build trust in my intuition, I’m going to trust myself and make this choice to wear this outfit and go on with my day. 

Eating is another great place to experiment with this practice. When you sit down to eat or choosing what you’re going to have for a meal. Ask your intuitive body from a place of deep connection. 

Become anchored in your place of connection by taking deep breaths, feeling your body, recognize where you are in time and space, then ask, “What can I eat for lunch, that will support the highest expression of my body, mind and soul right today? Or to boost my immune system or help me feel clear and awake?” 

If you’re choosing from a menu or choosing from your refrigerator, pay attention to what your mind says and what your intuitive body says. 

These two practices are a great place to start, as you become aware of what you wear and what you eat and notice how often your Intuitive body and the override mechanism of your mind pull you into different directions. 

The next stage of unwinding, healing and learning is to distinguish between wounding and wisdom would be in attending certain events, going to a party, an event or meeting someone new. 

If you are in a phase of deep trauma where there’s a fear of going out, there can be healthy fear that comes from wisdom, and then there’s wounded fear that comes from trauma, the pain body and wounding. 

Fear is not bad so be careful not to automatically connect feeling afraid with wounding. It’s important in your healing that you learn what emotions, feelings and sensations are rooted in truth vs where you can stretch yourself to expand your comfort zone. 

Make it your practice to discover where and when to challenge yourself in a way that is rooted in wisdom and not in wounding because the wounded fear will push you to do things when the cost is too great. 

I have unknowingly pushed myself too far many times when attending workshops, trainings or business events when I’ve said, “you have to go, you’re gonna miss out, you need this information, if you don’t get this information your business will fail.” 

Okay, that was a really good example of wounded fear driving. You can feel and hear the FOMO and threats present in that example of self talk.

When I was working on this in my own practice many years ago I was attending a lot of business events. Most of those events were in hotel conference rooms with recycled air, fluorescent lights with no windows, tight seating back in the day. When we used to do that with 50 to 500 people, the is not my ideal environment, it’s hard on me.

I was actively working on this intuitive body healing practice to restore my intuition I would negotiate with myself, and use my inner guidance to help me select the best choice for the outcome I desired. 

For example if there is a two day business building event I am considering attending, I connect my breath with my body-mind, to decide if I was even going to the event by asking, “will this event support me and my business to create a bigger impact and make more money?”

If the answer is yes, then I would choose which sessions to attend based on my intuitive body wisdom. There were generally morning and afternoon sessions sometimes evening sessions with lunch and dinner break.

Examples of how I plan my day, I would attend the morning session and then leave after lunch, or I would show up at the end of the lunch break and attend the afternoon session. 

Sometimes I would be guided to walk out in the middle of a session, sit on the sun, or walk around the block, and then come back for the next session. I let my intuition guide me and it became easy to distinguish when wounding or fear was trying to control me. 

Yes, I was missing information yet as I rebuilt trust with my intuition I always ended up hearing the information I most needed or magically meeting someone to collaborate with on a project I was working on.

The FOMO fear/wounding voice would jump in and declare, “if you don’t attend EVERYTHING your business is going to fail.” 

My bone deep intuitive animal body says, “that is not accurate information. You are speaking from fear and wounding, no thank you.”

The intuition and wisdom body is not rooted in fear, it’s not an urgent, emergency type of feeling when you receive guidance.

When my intuition is guiding me and it is actually an emergency it feels grounded, rooted, clear, firm, direct, kind yet confident.

The fear and wounding voice uses, threats, shame, FOMO and false urgency.

As you practice you will begin to recognize the fear program and rebuild trust instead.

I want to restate this teaching in another way to make sure it lands since this is often life changing for my clients once they get it in their bones.

If we go back to the business events example. Pause, breathe, feel your feet on the floor and anchor yourself in the present time and say, “honey. I love you, and I’ll be at the sessions that I need to be at.” I trust that what I need it’s available and will be provided when I need it.”

When you’re in a place of deep connection body, mind, heart and soul you’re rooted in your being, what you need, shows up. 

The soul body breath practice is helping you weave your body, mind and heart together. In order to notice when and how your trauma and wounding pulls you off center.

Soul body, breath and present moment awareness helps anchor you in trust, connection, willingness to face hardships, shadow aspects, wounds and being okay with the things that you miss out on. 

This practice will help you to choose what you attend or what you do. Each time you consciously select the places that you stretch and challenge yourself for positive and empowered choice you are healing your entire animal body intuitive system

Stretch yourself in ways that it’s easier to heal, think about increasing trust in your intuitive body like increasing your physical capacity. If you are learning to do the splits and can’t even go halfway down, it would be unwise to overriding my body’s limits and wisdom forcing yourself into the splits on the first day. 

If you have perfectionist tendencies keep in mind and heart that you will not do this perfectly and forcing yourself with an override approach would likely get you injured, but take your time with patience, sensitivity and persistence every day you will increase your capacity and restore your intuitive animal body wisdom.

Journal prompts (visit Soulpurposepodcast.com for a printable version)

I encourage you to write without stopping and without editing. The answers are your perspective and experience, there’s no right or wrong, yet the practice itself often highlights your personal relationship with wounding and wisdom, intuition and anxiety, 

What’s the difference between wounding and wisdom?

Write a magical example of your intuitive body?

How does your pain body trick you into thinking it’s the CEO?

How can you tell the difference?

Wounding:

Contraction/hardening/urgency/frenetic energy/demanding/bossy/shaming/making wrong/either or thinking/controlling

Wisdom:

Solid/confident/grounded/quiet/clear/knowing/certain/grounded/kind/focused/unconditionally loving/having choice

Wisdom is knowing how far to go.

Wounding is shaming yourself for making a mistake.

Just like if you have a yoga practice that wisdom of knowing how far to go in a pose. 

Wisdom is trusting yourself and to challenge yourself when not to challenge yourself, so that you’re anchoring our choices from a place of wisdom, and not from wounding because when your make choices and push ourselves and challenges ourselves from a place of wounding, it can traumatize yourself or create new trauma. 

My invitation to you is to take on one or more of these practices. Practice in your everyday life with small things that are low risk, where there’s no great cost in learning, to distinguish between intuition and wounding or love and anxiety.

The focus of this podcast today is to anchor yourself in your being and whatever ways you do that. Connect body, mind, heart, and soul. Come into the present moment and learn to distinguish when your intuition is guiding you. When your wisdom is guiding you, or when your wounding, pain body or anxiety is trying to push you forward and control you.

Thank you for being here, it’s a pleasure to walk the soul purpose path with you. 

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